Coming to terms with mommyhood

Mai 5-months pregnant

Mom-to-be Mai at an Anime convention in Singapore

Thank you for the heartfelt congratulations and laughing along with me. It’s nice to receive encouragement that you think I’ll be a good mom because that was NOT my first thought. Continue reading


My breast kept secret

Mai looking surprisedHello friends,

I am keeping a secret. It’s easy for me to keep secrets because I live in Singapore and you don’t know exactly what I’m doing unless I post on social media or on this blog. On the flip side, I don’t know many people in Singapore so my secret’s been safe. Continue reading

NYC care package from the best PEOPLE

New York City This Exit

I opened my care package and got a little bit of NYC in Singapore.

I believe we have the family that we’re born into and the families we choose to be part of. I am lucky to have friends who feel like sisters and sisters who are some of my dearest friends. When I lived in LA, I became part of a west coast family and then I joined an east coast family when I moved to NY.

One branch of my NYC clan is my PEOPLE people. Continue reading

The first of many firsts from Singapore

Robert Indiana's "Love" sign in Singapore

The LOVE sign outside our temporary housing at Lanson Place seemed like a cosmic sign.

Yesterday marked one week of living in Singapore and each day I’ve learned something about the city or my relationship or myself. It’s been overwhelming with one task after another and I realized after the fourth or fifth day that I was just doing and not feeling. Continue reading

Photos from our first day in Singapore

welcome-to-singaporeLast Wednesday, we landed in Singapore at 6 a.m. and “orientation” was scheduled at 10 a.m. with lifelong Singaporean Samantha from Santa Fe Corporate Relocation Services. During the tour, I felt exhilarated and terrified like one of the kids on the psychedelic boat ride in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. Continue reading

Sunday lessons on self worth, privilege and honesty

Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union on Oprah’s Next Chapter

I spent my Sunday night watching Oprah’s Next Chapter with Viola Davis, Phylicia Rashad, Alfre Woodard and Gabrielle Union and the documentary Dark Girls on OWN. Both programs explored the experience of being an outsider whether it was as a black actress in Hollywood or a “dark girl” dealing with skin-tone based prejudice from her own community. In both scenarios, I realized minority women were pitted against each other to fight for scraps of watered-down white privilege. Continue reading