A friend’s encouragement about moving to Singapore

Mai and Judy

Mai and Judy

I am telling friends and family about our decision to move from NYC to Singapore and reactions have been a mixture of ‘happy for us’ but ‘sad for them.’ I don’t think it’s fully sunk in that Singapore is a 20-hour flight from NYC or that I’ll be 13 hours ahead from my family in Illinois. I don’t want to get scared about the move so I’m not dwelling on the physical distance. I’m sure when I start packing the real-ness of leaving the country / hemisphere / continent will be unavoidable. Fortunately for me, my dear friends and family have encouraged me and helped assuage my fears of emotional distance. My girlfriend Judy wrote me this letter and I was so touched by her words. I asked her if I could share it with you.

My Mai,

Just thinking about you and how thrilled I am for you and Eric. A chapter is ending and a new one beginning. So much growth will happen on your adventure and you must share your gift of writing and exploring. It reminds me of when we were thrift store shopping one summer day in the east village and the guy that worked there asked if we were students. And you said,…”I am a student of life.” Loved it! This is so you and you have this great opportunity!

I will miss you when you’re away but I don’t worry at all about our friendship. We will stay in touch and I will keep up with your blogs and cool things you’re going to experience. I loved what you said when you felt that the possibilities are endless! It’s so encouraging to hear.

Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I love you and support you both.

Love you!
Udy xoxo

Thank you Judy! Your friendship is life-affirming and I will read this when I feel homesick. I’ll remind myself that I have a friend who cares about me and who’s rooting for me! I’ll know that I am loved whether I’m here or there. What a blessing you’ve given me.

with love,


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