My movie date to La La Land

la-la-landAfter I wrote my first post of 2017, I logged off and out of reality for the afternoon. I took myself on a movie date to see La La Land. I hadn’t been to the movies since seeing The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1 in theaters sometime in November 2014 when I still lived in Singapore. Some people never go to the movies but for me a three-year hiatus felt akin to Rip Van Winkle waking 20 years later. See, I love movies. Continue reading


Sunday lessons on self worth, privilege and honesty

Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union on Oprah’s Next Chapter

I spent my Sunday night watching Oprah’s Next Chapter with Viola Davis, Phylicia Rashad, Alfre Woodard and Gabrielle Union and the documentary Dark Girls on OWN. Both programs explored the experience of being an outsider whether it was as a black actress in Hollywood or a “dark girl” dealing with skin-tone based prejudice from her own community. In both scenarios, I realized minority women were pitted against each other to fight for scraps of watered-down white privilege. Continue reading

‘Clouds’ singer Zach Sobiech leaves beautiful legacy


I first read about Zach Sobiech and his family while at work. I watched SoulPancake creator Rainn Wilson, Jason Mraz, Rachel Bilson, Sara Bareilles, Anna Farris and more celebrities sing-along to his song “Clouds.” I cried at my desk listening to the lyrics, which are a beautiful goodbye to his loved ones. Continue reading

@Oprah Re-tweeted Me During #Lifeclass with @DrPhil

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I am an avid Oprah Winfrey fan and support the OWN Network since it launched. I respect her mission to help people live their best lives, and I’ve taken her advice to heart on many occasions. One of my favorite programs is LifeClass and Dr. Phil returned to encourage viewers to “Be the Star of their Own Life.”
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A friend’s encouragement about moving to Singapore

Mai and Judy

Mai and Judy

I am telling friends and family about our decision to move from NYC to Singapore and reactions have been a mixture of ‘happy for us’ but ‘sad for them.’ I don’t think it’s fully sunk in that Singapore is a 20-hour flight from NYC or that I’ll be 13 hours ahead from my family in Illinois. I don’t want to get scared about the move so I’m not dwelling on the physical distance. Continue reading