I miscarried a year ago. I’m ready to share my story

I was triggered by a recent news article about singer Lily Allen temporarily leaving Twitter because faceless cowards attacked her for losing her child. Someone on Twitter called Allen mentally ill because he/she didn’t like Allen’s criticism of anti-immigrant policies; Allen agreed that she was mentally ill and described being bi-polar, depressed and experiencing post-traumatic stress after delivering her stillborn son in 2010. Instead of empathy, the Twitter abusers blamed Allen for her baby’s death at which point she stepped away.  Continue reading →

NYC care package from the best PEOPLE

New York City This Exit

I opened my care package and got a little bit of NYC in Singapore.

I believe we have the family that we’re born into and the families we choose to be part of. I am lucky to have friends who feel like sisters and sisters who are some of my dearest friends. When I lived in LA, I became part of a west coast family and then I joined an east coast family when I moved to NY.

One branch of my NYC clan is my PEOPLE people. Continue reading →

A friend’s encouragement about moving to Singapore

Mai and Judy

Mai and Judy

I am telling friends and family about our decision to move from NYC to Singapore and reactions have been a mixture of ‘happy for us’ but ‘sad for them.’ I don’t think it’s fully sunk in that Singapore is a 20-hour flight from NYC or that I’ll be 13 hours ahead from my family in Illinois. I don’t want to get scared about the move so I’m not dwelling on the physical distance. Continue reading →